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The Hair Theme

Author: Tafari, Thursday, November 9th, 2006 at 6:55 PM

This morning while driving to work I was cruising along listening to music as usual when my old Hair Theme came on, “Mr. Lover Man” by Shaba Ranks. This became my hair theme the first time I walked out of the Nathan Influence Salon downtown Detroit in the Renaissance Center with my hair straighter than any white counterpart.

It’s kinda funny because as I as walking out the song was playing & it was like I was moving in slow motion through the salon with everybody staring at me like what the fuck did he get a page boy for & why is it straighter looking better than my shit (I heard the whispers) but I did not care. As I approached the door still in slow motion it opened and a gentle gust of wind blew my freshly permed hair around like I was in some type of Pantene commercial & I liked it in a strong Black man kinda way.

"Who are they to judge us simply because OUR hair is long"

When Mr. Lover Man comes on I am always taken back to that unforgettable slow motion gentle breeze moment, which brings a smile to my face. To this day I still enjoy a gentle breeze through in my hair. The man responsible for my progressive look was non other that Curtis Griffin, a hair stylist, therapist & good friend for 7 years. Curtis got me hooked on Sebastian ColourShines Reddissimo, which I still use to this day.

In 1999, I went to Curtis and we looked at each other dead in the eyes & said are you sure which I replied yes to (he could read my mind). 20 minutes later I was bald. I was happy with my decision but I did this in the winter & my head was so cold.

For weeks I would go to look into the mirror expecting to see my long hair but it was never there, I had a few nightmares which annoyed Suite Suzy & at one point a cried in my sleep (a bitch cry). It took me a while to get over the fact that I had no hair but I survived. I continued to see Curtis for my barber service until he retired from the business to get a legit 9-5.

I am not sure if I am weird because I have such a string attachment to my hair because I am a guy but…

Bygbaby Permed Hair Factoids

  • I won best hairstyle male in my HS mock elections
  • I was in a hair magazine in 92/93
  • My dad referred to my hair as pimp hair
  • I was accused of having a weave
  • People asked me if I were Philippino despite my huge lips & nose (I’m not that yellow)
  • People asked me if I were Samoan
  • My hair went on a world tour before it was cut (15 countries, 60 cities)
  • I saved a 6 inch swatch of hair to put into a locket for my kids (a piece of me)

Bygbaby.com Mindspill

FYI: My Brotherlocks currently have no theme.
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9 Responses to “The Hair Theme”

  1. brunsli Says:

    Oh my goodness Byg, I don’t know what to say. I have strong feeling about men (other than Prince) with their hair relaxed. I don’t even think you have the excuse that it was the 80’s.

    LOL! I’m such a meanie. But, your locks are really a good look for you. Really good.


  2. Ms Stella Says:

    Oh damn! I’m a little taken aback. LOL at My dad referred to my hair as pimp hair.

    What is done is done (a sigh a relief).


  3. Bygbaby Says:

    @ Stella, I was about to scream when I saw your name, I thought is was my Mom also named Stella. If she read some of my post I would be disowned LOL

    Thanks for hitting me up.

    @ Brunsli
    You are not alone, I have heard that many times, but I always brushed it off because the comments were usually fucked up & somewhat oppressive, but I got strong fast because my style is & was my style.

    My feelings on relaxed hair now on men and or women is that we (Negros) should have it. It’s not healthy or natural & feeds into a white is right mentality.


  4. CarmelSoul Says:

    All I can say is you go ‘big pimpin’ that bob was fabulous! I’m so honored to know you now with you locks – it’s wonderful how you went through that transition.


  5. AFunkyKindaGlow Says:

    You so pretty!, I dated a guy with a perm, at least we both understood, there was no running of fingers through hair.
    I have a theme tune it changes on a regular, I have never had a hair specific one.


  6. CloudNine Says:

    Wow! I am not certain what to say…it looks healthy as heck! I know back in the day, women were sweating you about your healthy hair secrets!


  7. SLWilder Says:

    Lol. My brother did the chemical thing with his hair in the early 90’s. I have memories of Duke being in the bathroom and whining because he had already been in the bathroom for an hour! lol.

    Your relaxer looks better than mine ever did! :)


  8. Anonymous Says:

    I know I’m late but-very Micki Free


  9. Bygbaby Says:

    Better late than never. I haven’t heard about Micki Free in a while. LOL

    Bygbaby



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