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Making a Change

Author: Tafari, Monday, January 8th, 2007 at 3:15 PM MindspillIn my “Live it Everyday” everyday post, I mentioned that I chose the African name Tafari for myself during a Kwanzaa event that I planned for the kids+ last month. Well after some very heavy hearted contemplation I decided to fully accept the name & replace my given name “Brian”. For the last year + changing my name has been something on my mind to do and discussed with Suite Suzy but I was not really moved to do so after trying to find a fitting name that truly inspired me until late last month. The name Tafari, really stayed penetrated my heart day by day & last Friday 01/05/07, I decided that this was the day that I would carry the name forever. Because I was nervous big time about this big decision, I called one of my good friends and sheroes Dahia for guidance based on her experience. She basically said Tafari, now is the time so just do it! She told me that some would trip but I needed to stay strong & steadfast with my decision to do something that affected my cultural/mental/social well being positively. So after we hung up the phone it was mos def on. I called Cousin Dee to discuss it with her & she was digging the change and understood where I was coming from & told me she was down with me no matter what. I then call Best Friend Brion & confirmed with him that I was going for it & he too was very supportive but told me that he was going to call me T-Bone then I cussed him out. BFB & I discussed this earlier in the week so he already knew what may be coming. During our initial conversation about this he asked me how the person how gave me my name would feel about it; assuming my Mama named me. I informed him that my father actually named me & that he had been dead for 5 years so I could not get his input for sometime to come when we meet at the cross roads, where a possible bitch slap may be involved. I then told Suite Suzy and then things got interesting. She told me that she did not agree with it but she would be supportive. I was not surprised by her reaction but it was somewhat cold & expected but that has not deterred me because we have opinions & that’s where respect comes in. Last but certainly not least, I finally got in touch with Mama after leaving a message. I told her about my decision & she asked me if I was tired of my slave name & we both cracked up laughing at that. Then she told me that she really never liked my name in the 1st place. She wanted to name me Robert Lewis and my father was bent on naming my Brian Keith so that is what she rolled with. Now 32 years later the script has flipped & I am running my naming decision!!! LOL So after all of the most important people were in the know I sent a notice out to all of my friends & family which read: “Dear Family & Friends, I am announcing that I have made the decision to change my first name, which has been something on my mind for quite a while. I have taken an African name to further celebrate and honor my African heritage, which is very important to me. With this said, my new name is Tafari, which is an Ethiopian name and means “he who inspires awe”. Thanks and I appreciate your support! Tafari K. Stevenson-Howard” ----------------------------------------------------------- Back to me: With this now totally out there, I am still a little nervous but excited. I received several responses back so far with love, support & kudos just like I did when I passively mentioned it here recently. During my lunch break today 01/09/07 I ran to the county court to get the information so that I can do this legally & the process looks like it will take at least 3-4 months & cost me a little over 200 bucks, but it is well worth it & I am going to make this shit happen! So that we are all on the same page & you don't get it twisted; my alter ego/personality Bygbaby has gone nowhere & this is his blog & as always subject to get ig'nint at the drop of a dime. ----------------------------------------------------------- What’s in a name: Check out this Black History fact on the Ras – “Tafari” – An religion

10 Responses to “Making a Change”

  1. brunsli Says:

    Wow! Big news. Good for you for making this happen for yourself.

    Can I still call you Byg?

  2. brunsli Says:

    T, You never seemed much like a Brian anyway.

  3. Bygbaby Says:

    LOL & mos def on Byg.

  4. Bliss Says:

    Grace and Peace


    Bless your name and much respect to you for doing what you do. Leaders are found in the common man, who by his own self thinking (bad grammar), is uncommon.

    I salute you


  5. bella Says:

    Hey Byg! I know two other people named Tafari – one is a toddler who lives in Trinidad, and one is a DJ here in Miami. The Trinidadian baby’s parents are through-and-through Rasta, 12 Tribes of Israel. They pronounce his name Ta-far-eye. The dude here in Miami pronounces it Tafar-eye, like Jah Rastafari. How do you pronounce your new name?

    I applaud your decision! It’s a very brave one, and big respect on having the chutzpah to make a change.

  6. Bygbaby Says:

    Thx for stopping by & sharing that information!

    I pronounce it Ta-far-ee. I do like Tafar-eye it sounds very strong.

    I am getting lots of kudos for making this change from friends but my wife is giving me hell & tripping even as we speak.

    She just doesn’t get it & I am sicking of talking about it with her.

    I had to tell her that Brian went back to Alabama never to return or be found: Tafari is up in this piece now.

    Much Respect AfroBella

  7. Cluizel Says:

    Lol @ “Brian went back to Alabama never to return or be found: Tafari is up in this piece now.”

    Congrats on your decision…I like the new name/meaning. Just make sure the blog is still hilarious! :)

  8. Lovin' Locks Says:

    BygT (as in Byg Tafari),

    I like the pronounciation “Ta.Far.Eee” versus saying “eye” at the end. Anyway, kudos to you. I was reading through your blog trying to see if you are going to go legal and for real for real step out there.

    I did, never looked back, refuse to trip (back then) with those who chose disrespect – ’cause that is exactly what it is DISrespect when you go to someone, tell them YOUR name and they staunchly refuse to use it.

    I recall the first weeks, someone would call “Aminah” and I would ignore them ’cause for 35 years I was called something else. It was so funny as I look back and recall. Now, it is the other way around, if someone calls me by my middle name I forget to respond because NOBODY that is ANYbody in my world calls me by the “other” name.


    Lovin’ Locks

  9. Dredfoxx Says:

    Ok, so this explains it! I saw that you changed your name and didnt know what precipitated it. And I didnt feel like I knew you well enough to ask…

    It sounds like you put a lot of thought into it and I can respect why you wanted to change your name.

    Keep on doing what you do Tafari!

  10. Bygbaby Says:

    Hey Dredfoxx, Don’t be scurred to ask questions. I always reserve the right to trip LOL.

    Thx & Peace

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