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The Other Woman

Author: Tafari, Thursday, June 7th, 2007 at 3:12 AM

My Brotherlocks are a little over 3 years old now & I have been seeing the same consultant (Pam the Silent) since the beginning.

Over the past 3 years, Pam the Silent & I have grown quite close. She is truly a good friend, therapist & most importantly the woman that keeps me looking like me.

Since the price of gas has been slowly going up over the past few months, I have been feeling the need to cheat on Pam the Silent, which really has been bothering me as I have been actively seeking out a new woman to come into my life to keep my locks looking good.

The decision to leave Pam is boiling down to good old fashion economics. The trip to Pam’s place is 96 miles round trip + the 4-5 hours I spend in the chair watching movies & talking. Shit by the time it’s all said & done, getting my locks retightened takes a whole workday. Wait; I just did the math & it costs me $1,976.00 per year to see Pam, this includes hair cost, gas & travel time.

So last week I actively started looking for a consultant & decided to dial up a Freedom, who I met a few months ago at Wholefoods. When I met her I liked her instantly but at that time leaving Pam was not an option but I kept her number just in case. Well now that the option is open after I got off of work last Friday I ran home to get Freedom’s number to so that I could schedule an appointment.

It’s now 6:05pm & I dialing the number somewhat nervously, the phone rings & I get voicemail so I leave a message. Minutes later I go outside to get the mail & as I get back in the house I saw that I had a missed call & had a voicemail. I was like shit, I missed her!

Now it’s 6:09 & I call my voicemail & it was Freedom (I was like yes) but she has a bit of bad news. She told me that she was not taking any clients but referred me to a friend, who I will call “Can’t Call a Nigga Back”. That kinda bummed me out because when I want something, substitutes won’t do. I was like cool, what can I do but call “Can’t Call a Nigga Back”.

It’s now 6:15, I dial up “Can’t Call a Nigga Back” & get voicemail & leave a message for a call back. I just knew she was going to call me back soon but that was not the case. It took her like 2 days to get back with me, which threw up some red flags.

Bottom line; it is 6 days later & we are still playing phone tag, actually the game ended because I will not be chasing someone down if they can’t even call a Nigga back.

So after I got sick of the phone tag this afternoon, I called Freedom to let her know what jumped off & asked what it would take to get her to open up her availability to fit me in as a new client. All the time I was on the phone with her, my fingers were crossed hoping that she would say I can take you on.

Luckily, my finger crossing & hoping paid off because she decided to add me to her clientele & I have an appointment for this coming Sunday.

The cool thing about Freedom is she is only like 15 minutes away (less gas & time) & I hear she is pretty fast. When I talked to her today, she informed me that she finishes most of her clients in 4 hours or less, which was music to my ears! Lord knows I love Pam but she is not the quickest.

So now that I have a new lady in my life, I have to break the news to Pam. I think I will call her after my appointment Sunday. I think she will understand because it is getting hard on everyone one especially in Michigan. Gas prices are stopping me from doing a lot of shit I used to do all the time for business & pleasure. Mindspill


While I was pulling this post together I happened to check my email & saw a message from someone with a familiar name but it had been a few years since we last talked so I was like what the…

So I open up the message I found it was indeed from my good friend & former hair stylist Curtis Griffin. I mentioned Curtis on my blog before in my “Hair Theme” post, which is how he found me. He did a narcisurf (when you Google yourself) & my blog came up.

In his message he called me out & said, “If you’re going to write something about me, get someone to proof read it first.” Y’all now I don’t proofread shit (read my Ghetto Disclaimer) & usually don’t care but all of the sudden I was embarrassed as hell.

After I got over my shock, I call my friend to reconnect & we picked up right where left off years ago. Curtis was my stylist for almost 8 years & saw me trough some major life changes. Not only can this brother give the “baddest” hair cut in Detroit, he is a great friend & yes a great therapist.

The timing of his contacting me was so ironic as I am going though a stylist change. I wonder what the universe is trying to tell me???????

Curtis, if you find this post, I did try to proof read but gave up half way.

10 Responses to “The Other Woman”

  1. brunsli Says:

    Ahh! A hair post. I love it.

    I too, had to break up with hairdressers because of distance. It’s very sad.

    Your hair looks great!

    Let us know how it works out this weekend.

  2. Villager Says:

    …i need to visit your blog much more often. i enjoy your flow. your story on getting a new stylist was outstanding!

    …it is amazing the number of Black bloggers out here in the Afrosphere.

    peace, Villager

  3. Cluizel Says:

    Oh wow…since you never really focus on your hair I forgot how nice your Brotherlocks look!

    Good luck with the new consultant!

  4. Miz JJ Says:

    That story like my story with my former hairbraider. Good you found so close to home. The locs look amazing.

  5. Bygbaby Says:

    Brunsli/Cluziel – Sometimes I deal with my own real hair issues but I have to catch myself from posting about them. I don’t think many people will understand a guy with my kinda hair issues, i.e. needing my highlights touched up because I have 3 inches of new growth etc. LOL

    It’s noto cool breaking up with a great service provider!!!

    I will post a follow up Sunday & I cannot wait. I just hope that Freedom does not scream when she sees how my locks look in the back.

    Villager – Yes my Brotha, please stop by! I myself have so many blogs I frequent, it can be hard keeping up. I bet you know how that is.

    Miz JJ – Thx boo!


  6. daez Says:

    Awww…really sweet post Byg. I’m so glad Freedom could take you on as a client…you were really tripping for a minute (HUGS)’s amazing the way we find that connection with the person who comes so intimately in contact with us thru our hair…we spill our guts, they spill their guts…and thru it all the main objective is making us look and feel good about ourselves. Good luck with your appointment. I hope she’s all she promises to be…(((HUGS)))..
    ….just me…daez

  7. Bygbaby Says:

    Hey Daez – You ain’t lying about how we bond & form such close relationships & tell all of our busy & sometimes shit we can’t tell no body else.

    Wanna here something funny? Today I got a call from “Can’t Call a Nigga Back” & she told me that she had some personal drama, which I understood.

    So I decided that I would go to her after all but only after I visited Freedom because she made herself available.

    So in July, Ms “Can’t Call a Nigga Back” will be my new consultant.

    2 good things abut Ms “Can’t Call a Nigga Back” are that a) she lives in my subdivision, b) she only charges 100 bucks & works fast.


  8. aulelia Says:

    your LOCKS are banging. so lovely. i am so jealous. this afro of mine will not grow!!

  9. Liz Says:

    To echo everyone else, your hair is looking great so if you can keep it going with someone who’s closer to home, do it.

    I’ve been thinking of cutting the relaxer out of mine. The folks I’ve mentioned this to have flipped out because if I flat iron my hair it’s halfway down my back. I’m feeling done with it but I think I lack courage, and my other half flipped out. We’ll see.

  10. Bygbaby Says:

    Aulelia – Thx & work that Fro boo!

    Liz – Thx! No matter what people say, you are the one who has to deal with you 357. I trips me out on how people can trip on you for positive decisions we make for ourselves. Good luck on what ever your final decision is, once you get that courage, the rest is down hill!!!


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